Re: my husband doesn Posted by pivotingfool 11/6/2009 10:37:00 AM
Most of the male dancers I know only started dancing to make their wives happy. (They all now love dancing even more than their wives do.)
When a man takes dance lessons just to make his wife happy, the women seldom have a clue as to how much he must love her.
Learning to dance is a huge challange to the male ego. A man likes to feel at least average in any endeavor.
When taking lessons for the first time, men do not realize that the folks who seem to be, "Natural Dancers", are usually the ones who have taken the same lessons before. (Sometimes several times before.)
Just remember that when your husband actually learns to dance,---lots of younger women will want to take him away from you. You will be jealous when he dances with the young pretty women. (Especially when they talk about how wonderful he is.)
When this happens, try to remember how he must have felt when you kept going to your Salsa Dances, even after he started taking Dance Lessons for you.
Compromise is possible. If he is willing to try to learn to dance for you, you should be willing to make him your number one dance partner.
I am sorry, but you seem a bit selfish to me. The guy is willing to go out there and look like a darn fool for you. This is a huge step. It is really difficult for a man to make a fool out of himself in front of his wife and a bunch of strangers. (And we all look like fools at first.)
What are you willing to do for him?
My guess is that after the divorce you husband will take dance lessons and become a really good dancer. I bet some yuong women will scoop him up when he does.