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Re: Romantic feelings with Ballroom dance teacher.
Posted by Opportunity
5/19/2015  7:50:00 PM
I am also an older dancer in my late 40's. I know that complements are hard to come by these day's especially getting older. You are an adult enjoy the moment it's only 40 mins of dancing anyway. Respect yourself and your teacher. As a teacher it's difficult to get your adult students to relax and just do the steps, compliments helps put adult students in the mood to let go and dance. Don't ever stop dancing there is nothing wrong with having someone believe in you and you know where you stand. Until the invitation is extended for something more than dancing then you have something to pick and issue with in the meantime don't assume anything, if you're wrong then you will feel foolish.
Re: Romantic feelings with Ballroom dance teacher.
Posted by pakarinen
5/30/2015  5:11:00 AM
Check out danceforums.com for a couple dozen threads about crushes on teachers.

Briefly:

1) It's very common.
2) Some teachers will play your feelings to keep you coming for lessons ( = $$$ in their pocket).
3) It's a bad thing to let your emotions get the best of you. Odds are you'll be devastated when you either get slapped down or realize that they don't reciprocate your feelings.
4) Make a fool of yourself and odds are you will have to find another studio just to avoid dealing with the whole mess.

And from personal experience, if you're only one year out from a divorce, you have a LOT of healing to do. Give yourself time - there will be healthy (and real) romance to come.
Re: Romantic feelings with Ballroom dance teacher.
Posted by belleofyourball
6/5/2015  1:48:00 AM
It feels romantic but it isn't. Dance is highly choreographed, each step, each touch, moment, lead is taught, learned, memorized and becomes part of a dancer's basic repertoire of skills. You are alive in a moment with a person who has been trained to touch a woman romantically, to caress and gently lead her. He smiles and holds her, lets go and brings her close again and in those moments of course you feel the romance. You add in the sales pitch that has been ingrained as well or better than those dance steps and it can be confusing.

Try and remember the difference between a choreographed moment and real life. It is confusing and it can be easy to get lost in those moments, to want to get lost but keep your head and when the music stops real life has to start.
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