I want to know how to not just know the steps, but also how to play up the emotional drama of dance.
This discussion was started on a thread about falling for your dance instructor. I've only been dancing for a few months and as someone new to the scene, I was totally blind-sided by the emotional side of dance. I didnt realize that there was an emotional game going on where dance partners (and in particular dance teachers) were using manipulation to keep dancers coming back. I fell for my instructor at first because I believed the act, but after going on the previous thread and understanding what was going on I realized that I wasnt in love with him, I was in love with the way he was making me feel. Now that I know, I'm not at all put off by the fact that it was just dramatic play (AKA emotional manipulation) because this game sounds like much more fun than trying to have an actual relationship with my dance teacher! So, now I want to know how to play the game. So far I've been the sweet, shy, unsure of herself elementary school teacher. I want to get in touch with the tigress inside. So, help me! How do I play the game (without getting hurt or hurting anyone else, of course)?
As a ballroom dance chapter president, I am responsible to select DJ's or bands to play for our Ballroom dances -- I make all prospects aware of the music that is mandatory to play at our ballroom dances. I use the term ballroom "dance rhythms" and typically identify the dances (waltz, foxtrot, rumba cha cha, ECS, WCS etc) that I want as primary and played more often than those I classify as secondary (samba, salsa, bachata, VWaltz, quickstep etc.)for the evening. I was recently advised that the use of "rhythms" was not correct but that I should use the word 'dance styles' --- Your thoughts and help Bob Romeo
I also think VenusRose's question is very important. If someone would reply in a new chain as not to derail this one, but both I would follow avidly as someone who is trying to get into dance and thinking of one day trying pro.
This has been extremely helpful! As someone new to the scene, I was totally blind-sided by the emotional side of dance. Now that I understand what's going on, I don't feel confused and embarrassed any more. I've realized that I'm not actually in love with him, I'm in love with the way he made me feel. Now that I know, I'm not at all put off by the fact that it was just dramatic play (AKA emotional manipulation) because I'm not actually interested in developing a real relationship with my dance teacher. This game sounds like much more fun! Two can play at this, and I want to know how! So far I've been the sweet, shy, unsure of herself elementary school teacher. I want to get in touch with the tigress inside. So, help me! How do I play the game (without getting hurt or hurting anyone else, of course)?
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VenusRose you take all those feelings you are getting and put them into your dance to tell a story. Just like you would if you were doing a play. Once the song ends so does THAT story. **BUT** you keep all of the feelings this provides that makes you feel beautiful and fierce. Use this as stepping stones to build your confidence and your dancing abilities.
Remember - these instructors are in the backroom practicing their "charm" skills with each other. Know if for what it is ~ use it and play off it to get what YOU need to make you a FIERCE dancer. It's trash talk you leave on the dance floor at the end of the day.
I am a pro male and am curious about what happened after this. I have had students, young and old "fall for me" and yes, it made it much easier to teach lessons to them, also to have them take trips with me. Those ones tend to listen better and do as I ask, so they are more easy to teach, no stress since they hang on every word and want our approval, what teacher doesn't want this? This is how you ladies will know, many pro teachers restrict or limit what subjects and information we give to clients, even if we are speaking more casually/relaxed, and spend more time, its only to get to know you better so that we can give you a better experience for your money, flirting is natural, you will see us do it with all ages and shapes, its important to our business to make ladies feel good, but of course it is more fun if you are young and talented. If other clients know the same info (where we are from, how we got here, some foods, places of travel, taste in music, or perhaps even shops we like) its only what we opt to disclose. Most of us won't talk about our loved ones using names, our parents,won't disclose places we like to frequent, or even our neighborhood or talk about past relationships unless we are using it in an anecdote (ie. I once dated this girl... Blah blah, so now I'll never wear old spice again!!!) usually the rule is simple, you don't make your bed where you eat.
I'm so happy to see that I'm not the only one to fall for my dance teacher. I just started dancing, so I wasn't used to all the attention and didn't realize that it was all part of the dance experience. I really fell for it hard, and came to realize the hard way that all the attention was just a game. I really love dancing though, and am trying to get over my feelings. I also don't have options outside of the studio that I go to because I live on a small island with a not so big salsa community! Does anyone have suggestions for how to make yourself not have feelings for your dance partners? Or, how to recover after putting yourself out there and then getting rejected? It's quite embarrassing! I'm also curious to know how it went with you, sbrnsmith. I hope it was better than my experience!
It should have been here by now -- We were expecting it over a month ago -- but the programming team in charge of it has fallen behind. I'm expecting them to finish it before the end of the month. Thanks for inquiring, and sorry for the delay!
Sincerely, Jonathan Atkinson www.ballroomdancers.com
What you're describing -- the black box with the faint gray bar -- is a very specific issue that is normally indicative of (1) a broken link, something we would normally have to fix on our end, or (2) a problem with the connection, which usually has to do with the configuration of the computer being used to view the videos. The gray bar means that the computer can play "Flash Video", but the Flash player is not able to load an play the stream.
To rule out #1, I simply check the videos from another computer and make sure they're all working as expected. You mentioned beginning bronze West Coast Swing, so I checked them all and they're functioning normally. There are no broken links, at least as far as I could tell. But to be absolutely sure, you might want to send me the names of a couple of specific steps that gave you trouble, and I'll check them out.
In the meantime, the most likely scenario is something about your computer that's preventing the video from loading into the Flash player, so I will give you a few tips on how to troubleshoot.
I always recommend using the process of elimination to narrow down the culprit, starting with the computer as a whole. If you have access to a second computer, try viewing the same video(s) that gave you trouble with your main computer. Assuming that works, go back to the main computer and try a different browser (e.g. if your main browser is Internet Explorer, try Firefox or Chrome). Often the problem can be narrowed down to the way the browser is configured, sometimes with respect to the Flash plug-in, and sometimes with security settings. Internet Explorer is notoriously problematic in this regard, so if it turns out to be the culprit, you may want to consider another browser. Plenty of people use IE successfully with our videos, but if yours has a setting somewhere that's causing problems, it's often less trouble just to use another browser than it is to find and fix the problem with IE.
We do provide alternative video viewing solutions as well. One of them is "Quicktime", which is an alternative to Flash video. Many people prefer Quicktime because it has the added advantage of being able to pause and advance the video frame by frame, allowing you to analyze the steps in detail. Quicktime is also the video format you would use if you wanted to view our videos on your iPad or iPhone. Quicktime is not as ubiquitous as Flash, so if you're using a PC (as opposed to a Macintosh computer), chances are you may need to install it. But it provides a decent and fairly dependable alternative when Flash just isn't working on a particular computer. To watch our videos using Quicktime, log in to your user account, click on the custom settings tab, change the video settings to Quicktime, and click the save settings button.
A third method is to use our mobile website with your mobile device, such as an iPhone, iPad, or an Android-based phone or tablet device. The address is http://mobile.ballroomdancers.com/. The mobile site is very simple to navigate, and videos play flawlessly on all iOS devices, as well as most modern Android devices.
Let me know what you find out, and if you're still having trouble, I'll be happy to assist further.
Regards, Jonathan Atkinson www.ballroomdancers.com
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Regards, Jonathan Atkinson www.ballroomdancers.com