"I was taught that a Whisk is just a Change Step with a cross behind. not allowing my weight to move any further than it is on step 2."
While it may feel close to this, this is insufficient. If you did not let your weight move further back, it would never reach the heel of the foot that crossed behind and you would not be able to take a proper drive, moving your weight forward again through the length of that foot as you prepare the step after the whisk. But is is important that you not allow your weight to drift too far back.
Whatever you do, do not actively cross your legs, ever, in any of the swing dances. The leg cross happens because the body moves across the standing leg in a way that brings the moving leg into a crossed position. As another check, if you actively cross the leg you will probably also get turn out and do a latin cross rather than a ballroom one.
"The lady is the one that opens into Promemade"
There are several possible alignments for the basic whisk, and who opens to promenade depends on which one you choose.