Billman. You need to run the ruler over your idea of posture.Your right arm the elbow will be level with the front of your rib cage, not behind. The elbow will be slightly lower than your shoulder. Your hand on the lady will be lower than your elbow. A way of finding this position is. Fold your hands across your chest, at the same height as your shoulders palms in to your chest, elbows level with each other forming a straight line from elbow to elbow. Look to see that both elbows are in front of the rib cage. Don't push your chest out, this will cause a big front and a small back. From there simply open your arms. The ladies armpit should be on your wrist. The rest of your hand is just a decoration. The connection between you and your partners body is right side to right side. Very slight adjustments might have to be made if the lady is taller than yourself Happy Dancing