This is an update on my previous post about female dance instructors and male students.

I have discovered that the reason my female instructor cried the other day after I wanted to cancel my lessons was because she didn't want to lose a student she passionately shared her dancing for. She said it was heart breaking because there was a lot of things she wanted to show.

Now my question is this... how many of you female instructors out there ever felt that way with your male students? I find this incredibly odd and difficult to understand because first and foremost... she cried! Second of all... would you female instructors ever cry over a student?

The first thing that gets to me is ... if someone enjoys your company and wants to be around you... things become emotional... and you develop a special bond. But when you break that bond... things fall apart and you just have to learn to cope with it.

I have no idea if my female dance instructor had this crush on me... but could that be a reason? When you develop a crush on somebody... you start liking them 'fast'... and sometimes you even want them to be around.

What do you think? I'm completely lost.

I'm a female instructor and I find this behavior weird. I must admit that when one of my students told me he was quitting after lessons three times a week for nearly 2 years and I felt a little strange for a week without seeing him (not that there were any feelings whatsoever!) it had just become so routine that it was a little hard to change.
So I don't know if you've been dancing for a long time together, and if she really does have feelings for you then she should be big enough to say you can now start dancing/dating without the professional thing getting in the way.
Basically I would never cry over a studnet quitting---unless I had just bought an expensive car and wouldn't be able to make the payments anymore

It must be very frustrating to have been involved in all this drama and not know what the script is!

My guess is that it's neither personal nor dance related. If she truly meant what she said, she seems to me to be a bit unstable and/or overly emotionally involved with her job. But it also sounds like something she might say if she was trying to manipulate you into taking more lessons.

I'd say, chalk it up to "life is weird" and move on. Seems to me you're better off without her, both personally and as a dance teacher.

Well, I guess I've never had a really long-term dance partner or anything so don't know how qualified I am to respond, but I've had a few regular dance partners, and it's a great feeling finding someone that you click with dance-wise, so I definitely wouldn't wanna lose that. But at the same time, I don't think I'd cry over it. Sounds to me like she's either a little over-emotional like Ellen suggested, or yeah, a crush is a definite possibility. Depends how long you guys have been dancing together and all that I guess. And yes, sometimes when you have a 'crush' on someone, you just wanna be around them a lot, no matter whether anything's gonna come of it or not, so I guess that would be kinda understandable. But at the same time, if that really was it, and you were quitting and it meant that much to her, you'd think she'd tell you eventually now that you guys aren't professionally involved anymore. Well, either way, good luck with all that - makes you almost think that girls are complicated...lol