I have read the postings of all of these women who are disappointed that their husbands are not interested in dancing, or sticking with it. I have the opposite dilemma. Even though my wife takes lessons and we do dance in some shows for our studio, she does not enjoy practicing and has no real interest in improving and learning new steps. I approach ballroom dancing like a sport, and as I have been with other sports in my life, I want to learn more and get better on a consistent basis. When we go to dances, I spend a fair amount of time dancing with other women. My wife doesn't seem to mind that and has gotten somewhat used to it, I guess. In reality, I would hook up with another partner if the opportunity presented itself just to keep advancing my skills. Also, I have a pretty good knack when I am teaching others, to somehow get the men thinking of how it relates to other sports that take great strength and balance. I have taken the "fear" out of it for quite a few gents.

Well, I have taught for over 25 years social classes. And there are women that have reluctant SO (husbands) so they continue to dance and rotate in class. They find partners that are willing to dance. Usually find one that is older or younger so there is less likely hood of them feeling romantic toward you. And just Dance Partner can be a real thing. Just be Crystal Clear up front, and keep if fun and dancing only. It is nice to have a partner that is there for you when dancing. However Your Husband should be more willing... maybe getting him some privates where he is not feeling behind and can perfect and feel better about his part will help him get addicted more than you. Miss Potatoe

aww stavro!

to the op- don't give up your dream!!! you'll regret it

I'm a solo too. My hubby is learning slowly but lacks my passion for the dancing too.

But I have also had other partners, one in particular needed a partner because his wife is unable to dance, and so SHE asked me to partner him.

I've spent many hours learning more than I would have without this partner and I appreciate him!

He has been teaching my hubby to dance too.

But we met when he took a class to seek out a potential partner. He figured that if he took some basic classes he would eventually meet someone who didn't mind a much older partner with a couple small motor problems--and I don't! He and his wife are very wonderful.

I share this so you can know that finding a partner is possible--and at dances, the spouses can sit together and chat so that they have company who doesn't dance.

I have a similar experience to Angelica. My boyfriend and I have been together 4.5 years (living together for 3 of them) and I've always danced without him. I had been dancing before we met, but when we first started dating, he did take some classes with me. Then after he was done trying to impress me, he went on to pursue his own passion (guitar). He still gets a little insecure whenever I start working with a new partner. But once he sees it's all business, he's more supportive than ever. He knows that it's my passion and just wants to see me happy. So, yes, it's very possible to find a partner who just wants to dance and still keep your relationship.

They can both interfere with a good dance partnership.



jj

28 messages so far. Is it possible that you ladies now the children have grown up and left home have found that there are other thing in life than that which used to fill your days. Suddenly the husband whose outlet for years was maybe Golf. Now you expect this middle aged warrior to suddenly become a Ballroom Dancer. Had you been even the slightest bit musical in the beginning, you would have danced yourself years ago.

"Had you been even the slightest bit musical in the beginning, you would have danced yourself years ago."

Well, that's harsh. I wish I had started many years before but life got in the way.

<<"Had you been even the slightest bit musical in the beginning, you would have danced yourself years ago."

Well, that's harsh. I wish I had started many years before but life got in the way.">>

I agree. Musically, I sang rather than danced for many many years. I danced as a child, but our community was all farming and dance wasn't something there if you were not a swan in elementary school.

I came to dance because I needed an activity that was good exercise that I would love passionately so that I would leave my desk and my work and go DO it.

My hubby promised to dance and has been too busy to follow through. He will eventually but he will never put into it what I wish he would.

It actually had little to do with children, we don't have any together and are finally attempting to do so. I will dance even if pregnant. I cannot imagine how having a child will prevent my expression of song and of dance.

So I agree, what polished said was rather harsh. Not everyone lives in a community large enough to have a ballroom instructor. Ours didn't. Where we live now does. Where I commute does. However, within the next two years we will be back in a community more than two hundred miles/four hours and one mountain pass away from a community large enough for a decent dance instructor.

So I am trying to do as much as I can NOW, while I have instructors, and I collect instruction DVD's for future reference and practice.

Back in the early ears of our nation's history, many small towns lacked sufficient means to support a preacher for their local church. To meet these local needs, the church organizations recruited and trained "circuit preachers." These mobile clergyman served among a number of such communities, travelling from town to town. Their exploits are celebrated in Dion's song "The Wanderer."

Extending your observations to the general population, there would appear to be an underserved market in dance instruction. Perhaps some new dance society will arise to hire and dispatch "ciruit dance teachers" to tap this market.

I gotta start charging for these posts.



jj