cal pauley:
Interesting . . . I have had females that do not know how to dip, even though I know my part very well!
twnkltoz . . . hit it right on the head. The female should be able to hold a dip by herself. If executed properly, the leader should be able to completely let go, and the lady (follower) should be able to maintain that dip.
If you properly place your hand, say the right, in the middle of her back, 'somewhere around' count 4, to hit a dip and a "break" on (the music's) count 5 in a WCS, the female should be able to support herself, thus allowing you to free up your left hand, thrusting it out for styling, all the while your right hand is over and across her front gently supporting her underneath on the back.
Some dips, such as a form of the dip, the "rag doll," takes lots of practice to lead and execute without physical damage to the female.
Keep doing the 'dips,' I've found that dips, done properly and sensually, are welcomed by a lady! Be sure to look directly into her eyes if social dancing, however, if you are posing on a break in competition, in that case, look at the audience directly in front of you