i agree .. that isn't very nice of your instructor..it does happen. I know there is suppose to be a professional level with Pro-am .. but sometimes a professional may start to like their student or the student may start to like their instructor. also sometimes instructors do date other instructors they work with. Like it was said before.. somewhere down the road if you instructor does start to care for you she will tell you and make it clear. It is up to her if she wants to take the chance/risk with dating one of her students. If it doesn't happen then there are many more fish in the sea!!!!!

Just a Dancer. Going back a few postings here. Ever since Robert Newton watched the apples drop from the tree and discovered gravity it seems a problem with girls bending to adjust their shoes. Either go back to the Victorian Days and wear a ruffle up to the chin. Or ask your partner to adjust your shoe if you are at all worried.

I always thought I was impervious to "OMGWTFCRUSH!" but it's whacked me right on the nose like a rolled-up St. Louis Post-Dispatch Sunday Edition. BAM.

I heart my regular partner and male companion of a million years, don't get me wrong, but DAYAMN...

Here flounces in this shiny-haired, oreo-eyed, caramel-skinned, appallingly decadent, odiferously-erotic Lothario who is SO FREAKIN OFF LIMITS he might as well be the Hope Diamond (at least it has Hope!)... and if I had a heart or soul? They would so be bleeding like a thumb from a brand new shoebrush!

It's. Not. Fair. Guys have Jenna Jameson, Emily Blunt, and other hotties to fantasize about... ON TV. IN PRINT. FAR AWAY FROM THEM, as in safe distance to daydream. Here this latte fantasy is in frame with me multi-times a week... and all I can do is smell and look at one multiply-pierced earlobe and feel one smoothly-tone bicep!

WAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!

I know that it is merely a passing fixation, it is completely unrequited, and I do not exist in the same capacity to any man because of my acerbity and opinions, so this makes me feel safe and confident that I won't say or do anything STEWPIT. He's a dear friend, and I wouldn't wreck that for the world.

To top it off? He's SWEET. If Jesus was skinny enough to wear Abercrombie, there you go.

Men and parking spaces... you know the drill...

*facedeskfacedeskfacedesk*

LOL!!!! DivaGinger...Your post is just too hilarious! You know, I love my non dancing hubby dearly...but it's just nice to appreciate fine art in the form of a beautiful man patner/teacher that happens to dance beautifully as well. It's fun and harmless (unless you take the dance relationship too seriously). After all there is a somewhat romantic image projected when dancing. I dance and enjoy, appreciate and then when I'm done dancing it's done.....what fun!!!

It's just not happening, defenseless. If she hasn't responded to your subtle gestures and your body-language by now, she's not going to. Give it up. Don't make a fool of yourself. Decide you are going to break it off, and then tell her why. And be prepared for her to say, "OK. I accept your decision." Move on. Your self-respect and your integrity will be destroyed if you keep following her around like a love-sick puppy. Whatever reasons she has, she doesn't sing the same tune that you sing. You are not destined to be an item. Get over it.

Didn't read all of the posts here so I hope this isn't off topic. I started taking dancing lessons with an old friend a little over a year ago, we are both divorced. After about 3 months, realizing we were having a great time together, getting along great and also having always found her attractive, I asked her if she would be interested in taking things passed the friendship level. She was really caught off guard and said she would have to think about it, but she soon came back and said yes she would, and we just celebrated our 1st anniversary together and I forsee many more.
So my advice to you, if you're really interested, mentally as well as physically, to go for it, you may end up in a great relationship.
Unfortunately if she says no you'll probably have to stop dancing with her and move on, but that's the chance you have to take. Hope that helps you.

Hi,

This is a few years later but, how did everything ended up?
I am also "stock" with my dance partner, but as a female. I can see that there is an incredible attraction between both of us and I would like a romance with him, but he says that he is too bad on relationships and if it does not go well, this would geopardize the dance partnership. My point is that if it does not go well, I am mature enough to keep dancing with him, but I cannot handle it now, the way he looks at me. I am 37 and I do not recall anybody looking at me the way he does. This drives me crazy! I can tell that the only way to get over him is to stop the dance partnership, but this would confirm to him that personal problems can bring the dance partnership down. So I am stock here, trying to figure out the way that he could not resist any more and would " cross the line". (Any suggestions?)on the other hand, he just likes playing games. Before I told him that I liked him, he would put his hand on my thigh when sitting down and talking. And after I told him, he still has been giving me really close haggs and even good buy kisses on the chick. He says he does it with everybody, but I have not seen that. I let him kiss be good buy, while I still thought that there was a possibility, but I finally told him that I cannot allowed it anymore, since it confuses me, and worst! He kissed me once in front of the other dancers because we have the deal that if I find another dancer that wants to be both, my romance and my dance partner, I will go for it. He has really been looking for a dance partner for a while, and he is really afraid to loose me as a dance partner, so he is been trying to walk me out, hang around with me and kiss me in front of the other dancers, so they think that I am taken. I had to really put the brakes on him.

Your instructor sounds like he is enjoying the hold he has over you. He doesn't want you but he doesn't want to lose you either. He should not be putting his hands anywhere once the lesson is over. As for the hugging and kissing (on the cheek) that means nothing. Some instructors are very touchy-feely, others are not. There is a great deal of kissing and hugging going on in our studio, that's just the way it is. I personally, can do without it so my instructor does not hug or kiss me ever. You are not "stuck", and do not make him convince you otherwise. There are plenty of dance instructors. You should not try to combine romantic partner and dance instructor, it rarely works out in the long run. Don't give him mixed signals. Say good-bye when the lesson is over and don't look back.

Just a small clarification. He is not my instructor. We were originally both social dancers and now we are dance partners. We are kind on the same level.

Sorry, I misunderstood. However, if he doesn't want you to be anything but a dance partner then there is not much you can do about it. But both of you have to have a clear understanding of what is expected from this partnership. It may be 'no kissing or touching' except what is required on the dance floor. Since you are the one with the problem, it will up to you to decide if you can live with the situation.