I started group ballroom lessons almost 3 years ago with a private studio. About 7 months ago I added private lessons. A friend/class mate asked me why I did, and I said because I wanted to get better! She looked at me quizzically and I didn't know what else to say. Now, our instructors (we're lucky to have two) are adding a technique class which I'm looking forward to. When I started private lessons, my instructor asked what I wanted, I told him technique to improve my skills, to make me LOOK like a dancer and to allow me to dance with multiple partners. He smiled and said so few people who dance socially want to bother as it's hard work, so he was glad to hear that answer.

Last night, at a practice session, my friend commented that she wasn't interested in the technique class and wondered what good it would be. I gave a non-answer. So, what can I say that doesn't sound condescending or negative if she asks me again? She and her husband enjoy dancing, know a number of figures, more than I as they've danced longer, but, well, we'll just say they have a style of their own. It works for them, but he's very difficult to follow.

It's none of my business how they look when they dance, but I find technique makes it easier to dance. Keeping my head up prevents dizziness in turns, proper foot placement prevents injuring a knee etc.

So, why do YOU work on technique if you're a social dancer and what do you suggest I reply to her?