"Sorry ,but the problem is before the exit in our case,on the third step of the telamark usually waltz. My wife turns her head to the right and that makes her shoulder turn to the right which turns the top part of her body away from me, I am then forced to exit in her direction since I don't wan't to pull her into the direction I want to go."
You need to talk through the dynamics of promenade openings together.
The open telemark is a reverse turning promenade entry, so your wife should not be turning to the right at all in any part of her body. Instead, she needs to turn left to close to you (think of it as CLOSING to promenade) while leaving her head behind. Her head doesn't turn right, her body turns left without it.
Your job on the open telemark is to leave your frame with your partner, sideways to the direction of intended promenade movement, while opening your hips slightly further. It can really help if you leave the left toe in the position on the floor it had from the first step, dance your opening as a sort of spiral, and only then move the left toe from this original position directly into the third step - if you let your left toe start to close some during the second step, you'll tend to overturn everything in a way that encourages your partner to open out rather than close to your promenade intent.