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1. You seem to take for granted the idea that being physically close creates a sexual chemistry and I don't agree. If you dance Argentine you will find that many men dance together, in fact origninally it is how men in Argentina learned the dance. It is agressive and interesting but not sexual. However you will not find a dance more sexal in nature with any naughtier roots than the Argentine Tango.

There are a lot of social situations with close contact that lead to no sexual responses. How many people have kids that rough house, including with their parents? Not sexual. Little girls on the playground that sit in each others lap and do hair? Not sexual.

I feel you are reading sexual response because you are aroused by dancing. Maybe that is why you dance. Dance plays many roles.

The purpose of dance is something we do not all agree upon. For me ballroom is a challenge. It is a way that I challenge my own body to be more than it is. It helps me to be more elegant, and stronger and more flexible. Dance for me is a way to become a living art exhibition. For others here it is a sport more than anything. Several on this site might consider it more of an obsession, something to live for. You aren't going to find a bunch of people on this site who are here for the sex. Its too cheap and easy to get elsewhere. Ballroom is neither cheap nor easy.

You see you make the assumption that ballroom is for either:

A: Fun
B: Socializing

But look at some of the other threads and you will see that isn't what most of us are gaining. It might be a side effect but it certainly isn't the driving force.

Ballroom, and the hold, the closeness seems to be what you are basing your assumptions about dance and sex upon. However the hold is necessary not to create chemistry but to create balance and a method to send unspoken information from partner to partner.

The hold is simply the way to transmit the unspoken language of dance. Can it transmit other information? Sure. Does it necessarily? No.

Finally, the idea that ballroom creates better lovers? LOL...you must be joking. If anything I would say it makes people more self-conscious.

So what we come down to is what are your motives for dancing? Are your own drives morally questionable?

Hitesh I am sure you did not mean to appear Racial,but to do as you suggest sure sounds like it? Cheers Dave. Old and not attractive but that does not stop women of all ages grabbing me for a dance when they get the chance. It's not the most attractive that I enjoy dancing with but the most skilled.

really great questions! this are aspects of dance that many people overlook!

The physical taboo of opposite sex is very much a cultural divide and taboo.

As someone has already said right up to the beginning of 20th century the whole ballroom thing was frowned by clergy and church before it got accepted as an art form .

Now, it not meant for flirting , though on a social level in the West it is a very much a romantic hunting ground,where the women easily outnumber the men in search for romance.

In the advanced competition stage, physical contact is absolutley mandatory for the man to lead the lady in any step, turn , line positions etc. Standard ballroom dance ,requires body contact all the time , but mainly at the hips

Now I am sure you joined all this for fun and games, So what is the double take in your question. Do you really want people to believe that your moral compass precedes or restricts in your philsophy of participation.?

Social dance even in Indian culture is very much a flirtatious movement even done singly with extreme hip movements.

what i find is RAMPANT hypocricy IN ALL THIS

See nothing is supposed to be public and expressive ,yet you will find suppression and all sorts of trespasses, rape of minor girls etc.

I dont think that broad mindedness is still in the non urban disctionary in India , which remains a country of double standards in these respects.