Sorry, but it seems to me you're not cut out for ball room dancing. You need to loosen up, quit and/or get a life.

Dani
Anyone can ballroom dance. Im sorry , but people do not appreciate being told to 'quit and get a life'. All it takes is a little practice, and the attitude needed for the certain dance will come with time. Like others have said, it does not come immediatly. Keep working hard and it will come!

Yeah, dani with an "i",
you dont have to be completely out going to dance, you can be shy. Alot of great dancers i know are shy off the floor. The only reason they arent shy on the floor is because they have deen danceing long enough to be confident. Dont listen to this dani with an "i", you go out there and dance. With time you will over come your shyness and have great stylizations. Stylizations also come when your more comfortable with the moves. Also you dont have to do the exact stylizations your instructor may show you. If you think they are too sexy for you right now, tone 'em down a lil till your more comfortable, and soon youll be comeing up with your own. Oh yeah, dani with an "i", be nice.

wow, Dani. Maybe you CAN assess performance from an internet posting, but I think I'd rather listen to my instructor's assessment, my fun level, and the competition results ;)

I'm actually quite outgoing, but yeah, I can be a little intense and a bit of an overachiever. It just frustrated me at first that it wasn't like other dance styles or sports in the sense that random guys would always be asking "do you have a boyfriend?" "do you want to go for drinks after?" etc.

If anyone else doesn't want that and just wants to have fun dancing and practice - the guys there to pick up chicks go away after a while.

I disagree....just think that the men once used to be shy like you and now with EXPERIANCE AND TRYING they are like this. I do agree with crimson_tear....just dance and someday the latin rymth will hit ya and you won't be shy anymore

Hey! its not shyness! its modesty be greatful that you have it and hold on to it....when you find the person you gonna spend the rest of your life with then you learn all these dances properly..
Dancing with a whole binch of guys and just losing your shyness as you call it....it rubbish...
Hold on to it....PLEASE