i think that they should show compations. thats the only way we realy get the real efect on 5things and how they would realy look ya digg yea. but this is guest.

Cute !

The ultimate goal of dancing is not in my mind "to get romantically involved" as you assert. I dance because I love to dance and having another person involved makes it more pleasurable. Physical closeness is nice but too often these days it is construed as a sexual feeling. I dance with men I like. And there is no better feeling than when you are completely in sync with another person and the dance goes exactly as you would want. Romance has nothing to do with it. I have a friend (female) who has a dance partner who is not anything more than a friend, they are both seriously involved with other people. They dance well together, look good together and have alot of fun. That's it. I dance with my husband and have a professional partner with whom I compete. We have spent alot of time very close physically but it means nothing. At the end of the day, I go home to my husband and family and he goes home to his wife.

Hi Ladydance,

Thanks 4 ur opinion….I completely agree that “there is no better feeling than when you are completely in sync with another person and the dance goes exactly as you would want.”

It feels like heaven.

The point is that feeling romantic or sexually attracted to the dance partner is the first and natural response.Then, we, as responsible society and family members respond (second response) to our first response and control that first response.And we stop our mind from thinking of any romance.

But this is not applicable only to dance.Even seeing a beautiful gal at supermarket may bring in the same two responses without even being physically close to her.

Though it's difficult for me to believe that physical closeness means nothing….if it meant nothing, then we would have allowed each other to be physically close in buses,trains(with strangers) and in many other social situations(with acquaintances)….but I again agree that Physical closeness means nothing if u think it's nothing…afterall it's all in our mind…

But the question here is, why do we allow physical closeness in ballroom dancing specifically ? What is the purpose of ballroom dancing….? Y was it started?

I understand,it depends upon a person's age,whether he/she is single or committed to anyone or not and his/her background…

That's y I said writing our age,sex and location will help….And just by saying ASL,one's identity is still not declared…it's still anonymous….

Anyway,ladydance,I think u r an experienced dancer,so ur attitude must have been refined by this time….it's like an actor or actress do the romantic scene for camera….but they actually feel nothing or they stop feeling whatever they were feeling the moment the camera is turned off….

Ladydance u made a statement,

“I dance with men I like. And there is no better feeling than when you are completely in sync with another person and the dance goes exactly as you would want. Romance has nothing to do with it.”

I completely agree with this except the last sentence.When u like the person,u feel in sync with the person and u enjoy it to the fullest……it's actually Romance…isn't it?....Because the Same thing happens in romance too whether it is while having candle light dinner or a walk…. So it's romance…or maybe sth similar to romance….we can call it platonic friendship…

It's getting interesting…I hope more ladies respond to this…

Thanks

Hitesh…

The more you post-- the more I am beginning to see that you are looking to use this activity as a dating service !
Now-- you are free to approach it in any manner you wish-- however-- be prepared for a lot of rejection .
I do not know your age, but you seem to have a very adolescent viewpoint in your writings, and are completely misguided in your understanding and purpose of the genre .

hmmmmmmmmm...


1. You seem to take for granted the idea that being physically close creates a sexual chemistry and I don't agree. If you dance Argentine you will find that many men dance together, in fact origninally it is how men in Argentina learned the dance. It is agressive and interesting but not sexual. However you will not find a dance more sexal in nature with any naughtier roots than the Argentine Tango.

There are a lot of social situations with close contact that lead to no sexual responses. How many people have kids that rough house, including with their parents? Not sexual. Little girls on the playground that sit in each others lap and do hair? Not sexual.

I feel you are reading sexual response because you are aroused by dancing. Maybe that is why you dance. Dance plays many roles.

The purpose of dance is something we do not all agree upon. For me ballroom is a challenge. It is a way that I challenge my own body to be more than it is. It helps me to be more elegant, and stronger and more flexible. Dance for me is a way to become a living art exhibition. For others here it is a sport more than anything. Several on this site might consider it more of an obsession, something to live for. You aren't going to find a bunch of people on this site who are here for the sex. Its too cheap and easy to get elsewhere. Ballroom is neither cheap nor easy.

You see you make the assumption that ballroom is for either:

A: Fun
B: Socializing

But look at some of the other threads and you will see that isn't what most of us are gaining. It might be a side effect but it certainly isn't the driving force.

Ballroom, and the hold, the closeness seems to be what you are basing your assumptions about dance and sex upon. However the hold is necessary not to create chemistry but to create balance and a method to send unspoken information from partner to partner.

The hold is simply the way to transmit the unspoken language of dance. Can it transmit other information? Sure. Does it necessarily? No.

Finally, the idea that ballroom creates better lovers? LOL...you must be joking. If anything I would say it makes people more self-conscious.

So what we come down to is what are your motives for dancing? Are your own drives morally questionable?

Hitesh I am sure you did not mean to appear Racial,but to do as you suggest sure sounds like it? Cheers Dave. Old and not attractive but that does not stop women of all ages grabbing me for a dance when they get the chance. It's not the most attractive that I enjoy dancing with but the most skilled.

really great questions! this are aspects of dance that many people overlook!

The physical taboo of opposite sex is very much a cultural divide and taboo.

As someone has already said right up to the beginning of 20th century the whole ballroom thing was frowned by clergy and church before it got accepted as an art form .

Now, it not meant for flirting , though on a social level in the West it is a very much a romantic hunting ground,where the women easily outnumber the men in search for romance.

In the advanced competition stage, physical contact is absolutley mandatory for the man to lead the lady in any step, turn , line positions etc. Standard ballroom dance ,requires body contact all the time , but mainly at the hips

Now I am sure you joined all this for fun and games, So what is the double take in your question. Do you really want people to believe that your moral compass precedes or restricts in your philsophy of participation.?

Social dance even in Indian culture is very much a flirtatious movement even done singly with extreme hip movements.

what i find is RAMPANT hypocricy IN ALL THIS

See nothing is supposed to be public and expressive ,yet you will find suppression and all sorts of trespasses, rape of minor girls etc.

I dont think that broad mindedness is still in the non urban disctionary in India , which remains a country of double standards in these respects.