Originally posted by dolphindancer:
People who think they aren't very good, but really are either have high expectations of themselves or are lacking self esteem.
I know what you mean. I'm the kind of person who'll dance with just about ANYONE at a social event (swing being my fave). It pains me so much at times to hear a partner constantly apologizing, and with the biggest smile and most loving, gentle voice a guy can muster, I make it a point to tell them that dancing is supposed to be FUN, so don't worry if you make a mistake, if anyuthing, do it twice like oyu mean it, laugh it off and enjoy, you're not defusing a bomb!" Kind nurturing words like that can make such a huge difference in how a person percieves dancing and if they'll want to keep going with it. I was very fortunate that the woman who taught me was sooooooo kind and encouraging and gracious, and had a dynamite sense of humor to boot!
People who think they are really good, but aren't tend to have inflated egos or are clueless as to their abilities.
Seen that too! From that haughty look in the eyes and equally condescending tone of voice, you know when you're dealing with an ego! These are the type of people who try to CONSTANTLY teach and correct you and nitpick at you while in mid-dance, A HUGE NO-NO!!! To me, that says, "Controlling and arrogant" not the kind of person you'd want to hang around with outside of a dance floor, that's for certain! >
I've had a couple instances of that. At first, I noticed these individuals rarely danced or got asked. Well, in 10 seconds, I found out why! OY!!!
Hoo Hooooo Hoo Hoooooooo
