I am an exception to that rule ( not social dancing ).. when I last lived in the States ( 5yrs ago ), I was at one period, until the last 2yrs, dancing Salsa 3/4 nites a week .( there were 2 other teachers who were as regular as I ).

The opportunities here are very limited ..

Thanks Belle,
Please do not think that in any way, that I am criticizing. I didn''t know you live so far away from a place to dance. Me, I'm half an hour at most. I think you are awesome, from what I have read you are so dedicated, you put me to shame. Perhaps you can get the fiance into a studio to learn a wedding dance. Sometimes, the hardest part to getting a guy to dance is getting them into a studio.

Ladydance,

I did not feel criticized. I felt like you were curious and trying to put together the pieces of a puzzle. I'm all good with that :~}

I am sure you are dedicated too, you sound very much so and I always appreciate your perspectives.

As for a wedding dance, no. He attempted dancing. He really did. He doesn't like it. It's okay because I don't like to play football

Even after seeing how well the pro football players have done on "Dancing with the Stars" your fiance is not interested?
When I am teaching stubborn members of the male species, the former athletes are usually the best, and they can relate to some of the movements being similar to the sport they played.
However, former hockey players are usually tricky. One once told me that there was "too much thinking" going on in ballroom dancing. I asked if he did any thinking while playing hockey, hoping he'd see how silly his comment was. But he said, "No, if I stopped to think, I'd get killed out there." So I didn't have an answer to that one.
But, hey, to each his own. I certainly can see where ballroom dancing would not be everyone's cup of tea.
I like it because of its high degree of difficulty and its fascinating and numerous layers (steps). It is more complex and has more to offer than so many of the other sports I have played or written about in the past 35 years or so.
I grew up in an era (and a family) in which dancing and boxing were favorites. Odd mix at first glance, but they have a lot of similarities.

dheun,

I love boxing. I am a huge fan so I can see the similarities.

I think that a lot of pro sports really prepare people for dance because it conditions their core and sharpens kinesthetic awareness on a number of levels. The problem with football is that it isn't really an endurance sport whereas ballroom really can be. Guys like Jerry Rice, Jason Williams and Emmitt Smith, they are runners. They have the skills and the endurance that many of the men don't. My fiance was one of the brutes whose sole job in life was to tromp other men into the ground. He can't get through fifteen minutes of very basic dance without having to sit down. He has too much muscle and even though he runs there is just something about the movement in ballroom that kicks his butt.

I have to admit that he and Charles Barkley spent three hours at dinner one night pulverizing one of the guys who had done DWTS and so if he ever danced he'd never hear the end of it.

Millions of people make fun of Charles for his golf, but he continues to play because he enjoys it, right? So, it should be able to work both ways. Even if a fellow is concerned about dancing, you don't have to be great to enjoy it.
Don't forget Warren Sapp. He was a down lineman who showed great footwork, lightness of the feet and how a big, athletic man can ballroom dance. I also like to remind people that Oliver Hardy, Jackie Gleason and Curly Howard of the Three Stooges were all excellent dancers -- and they were big men (in their time, not really by today's standards).
That may not be the issue here, and you have a great attitude about it. Hopefully, he will dance with you just for fun in the right setting and enjoy that. Years from now, it may become a sport he is more interested in.
I, for one, would not be giving Evander Holyfield or Floyd Mayweather a hard time about being DWTS contestants. Neither of those fellows were tremendous, but they weren't bad. I also think they would tell you that the training/preparation part was similar to their own sport.