"With my contraption I can get a measurement off the screen. Joanne's arm is at an angle of 140 degrees. Which to me can be called straightish."
For point of reference angling up from the elbow at a 45 degree angle would be 135 degrees. So your "straightish" is merely five degrees beyond beyind halfway in between a right angle, and straight. That's not very strait, is it?
If you have too big an angle - not sure what that would be, but 145 might not be a bad guess for the limit, it can easily be fixed by having the man keep his hand closer to his head. Remember there is zero benefit to having the hands isolated way out there on their own.
And of course the goal is not a particular angle. Instead, it is to connect the man's left palm to the lady's right back, a connection that requires her elbow to have some non-negliable bend to it, and to have that elbow hanging slightly forward of her hand, matching the angle of her presented uppper back shape. If the hands get so far out that the elbow nears straightness, this is lost. If the palms seperate, this is lost. If the wrists break (either partner) this is lost. If the lady's elbow pulls back into a dominant position, this is lost. And so on.
Perfect function is the goal rather than perfect form, but the rules of form are good hints as to what you will need to achieve the function.