You are right Ellen. It is NOT about sex. It's about intimacy. You can know the mechanics behind every dance move there is, but without intimacy "connection", it's nothing but a shallow moment.. you might as well be playing tennis with your partner on the other side of the court. So it comes down to being comfortable with your partner sharing themselves with others.. at any level. Them being "away" from the relationship, them laughing, joking and mixing with a crowd that you don't know.. ect ect...
I won't say that it is a relationship "problem", but dancing independently may NOT work for all relationships. If it is causing problems in yours, you may have to take inventory of your life and leave behind dance OR the partner..

Brendan

My experience is if both dance, they seem to go into social dancing. If only one dances, they seem to focus on competition and showcases. There are numerous unattached adults at the dances we go ot, but very few of them are married. At the FADS studio, there were a lot of ladies, whose husband did not dance and thet all focused on showcases and competition.

Many thanks to all for the views and opinions. I guess the general answer is a No, this is not a common issue. I will indeed try to take some dancing (though not sure this will help much as I am seemingly completely incapable of being good at it - this is not from a low self esteem, simply experience).

Thanks again,

TS.