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Re: The emotional side of dance
Posted by oh!beenthere
11/4/2014  4:24:00 AM
Emotional and sexual manipulation by the dancers (teachers and performers) has been described in literature going back thousands of years.

Hetaeras, geishas and such ruled countries from the shadows or married emperors. The power of dance had been harnessed by religious and shamanic rituals. The dance lessons for regular folks existed even then and the same crap dates back that far.

Religions tried to regulate it. Everybody knows the joke about a rabbi who does not allow a newlywed couple to have upright sex because it "may turn into dance".

Dance is a mating ritual. Biologically speaking, the hormones produced during dance foster feeling of emotional unity, boundless trust, generosity and these feelings for a specific person who aroused them once, may last for the rest of some people's life. It has less to do with sex - except for the same hormones are produced during orgasm, childbirth and when parents gaze at their children. Dear dance instructors: I read a lot of complaints about novice women being inappropriate - have mercy! They cannot help themselves, most of the time do not understand what happens and a deep shame and confusion frequently follow them home.

Unfortunately, for the instructors, the sense of power and a secondary gain, a high from the same hormone release, makes the process irresistible. Studios exploit this phenomena mercilessly. It takes a very mature, professional and an ethical dance teacher to help an unsuspecting or confused pupil to channel and sublimate all this flood of feelings into learning excellence and constructive challenge.

It takes a mature and smart student to process and intellectualize what is happening to them and make choices. Dear students - we are educated and successful, ambitious and assertive. Sublimate and intellectualize; look at your dance challenge as a process that requires dedication, technical excellence and financial resources. But be honest with yourself - a physical embrace by a trained individual with the music and a few supportive kind glances will always produce a powerful psycho-physiological reaction; the smarter you are - the more meaningful it might become, because you will rationalize it. "Brainy" people are more susceptible. There is nothing you can do about it: EXCEPT:

take complete control, do your research, know what you want and set boundaries; choose your instructors and have them teach you what YOU need. There is no level when they know better. If you are still interested in a complete trust and being powerless in the process - it is not the learning you are looking for. It is what it is.

Thank you, "wlemery" for being brutally honest and confirming what I had figured out by observing a studio for almost one year.
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