I don't know if there is a difference for a tango dancer as opposed to a ballroom/latin dancer, but this is what I have found. I never have a problem dancing every dance if I want to. I am not young or beautiful, medium height 5'6. I am a good follower because I know my own steps. This is the secret IMO. Many women can't dance unless they are pushed, pulled and held up. Good male dancers won't dance with a heavy woman more than once. If the man is a poor lead, I make my best guess and do something. I keep moving. So even if it wasn't what the guy expected, I make him look good. I'm pleasant, smile throughout and never criticize. Where I dance, everyone there is there to dance, period. Married women are quite comfortable coming by themselves. Other studios have more of a "social aspect" where men and women are looking for more than just a dance partner. So if you want to dance, take lessons and work on yourself.