Good points, laughable. I thought in pro/am competitions, they judges were supposed to be judging the amateurs, at least primarily. I couldn't beleive the perfect 10s either, especially from Carrie Ann who gave them a 7 for their first dance that night and had repeatedly said in previous weeks that John and Charlotte were the couple to beat. It's possible that because the judges gave 9s to John and Charlotte's freestyle dance, when they thought Kelly and Alec's was better, they had no place to go but to a 10. (Whether it was better or not I won't argue.) Still, I find it hard to believe that all three judges watching one couple for the entire dance, and having the abililty to focus on the one amateur person in the couple, would find absolutely nothing wrong that was worth a deduction in points.
And you're right about the amateur female having an advantage. When I talked to my mom about the show, I told her that, too. If the woman knows some basic moves, how to move, and react to a lead, an experienced man can lead her through all sorts of stuff. It's generally harder for an experienced woman to help a man in the same way without actively backleading. I was glad to see that an amateur man did make it to the finals because I wasn't sure any would.
I think it's too bad that John who was the consistently better dancer didn't win; I think he really deserved to. But like Onlooker notes, when you have a fan vote, odd things can happen, especially since they're generally not trained in the field to know what to look for. In the case of the finals, the judging method (listed at ABC) seems to indicate that the fans' vote determined the winner, regardless of what the judges said. Apparently, if the judges and fans tie, they go to numbers in the fans' vote. So even if the judges put John first and the fans put Kelly first, the judges vote meant nothing -- Kelly would have won because she got more fan votes. Even if the judges' vote meant nothing in the last round, I still would have prefered to see them give 1st to the couple that really deserved it. At least in the case of a tie with the fans' vote breaking it, you can clearly blame the uninformed fans. But I suspect some sort of fixing was going on if all three judges were willing to give Kelly perfect 10s on her final dance. Insurance that the rags to riches story of the comeback kid paid off with the big, final, championship victory?