I agree, dancing always "3412" is dancing against the music, but at some points of a choreography it may be wanted to break with the strict monotony (like a big 'syncopation') and come back later to the bar.
So I think sticking on phrasing too much can also be boring. Example: to fit a 2-bars-phrasing it would be impossible to dance a Foxtrot Natural Weave followed by a Three Step, because this part has 3 bars. So the next Natural Figure starts on "bar 2", but this may be intended, e.g. to emphasise man's heel turn on a (perhaps) following Impetus. So a spectator may see the dancer "off phrase" in bar 4. With this examample I wanted to show that phrasing can be a matter of different points of view.
Additionally I think some dances are constructed to be nearer at the musicals phrases than others:
Dancing a Quicktep Quarter Turn followed by a Progressive Chassé is undoubtedly a basic construction, but completely off phrase: Chassé starting on beat '3', both parts together lasting 3 bars - nobody faults. One may say: continue with some figures of 5 bars and you can build a 8 bars construction, but what do we have? - We are in phrase every 8 bars - and inbetween? So I would say, Quickstep (and Jive) are highly off-phrase dances, where perhaps the Waltzes are nearer at the musical phrases, where Foxtrot and Tango are somewhere in the middle.