I am married and my husband doesn't dance. I've tried everything and he's just not interested. I haven't been dancing for very long but would like to eventually compete. So I was thinking about looking for a dancing partner so we can practice and compete together. My husband is totally ok with it, but I feel a little guilty for some reason... Everyone knows I'm married, it's no secret... does anyone have any advice on this? Thanks,
Sasha

I competed for eight years with a variety of guys who weren't my husband. My husband doesn't dance, and doesn't even want to learn to dance socially. It's never been a problem or an issue for any of us, and the partnerships have worked out quite well. Most of the guys I was partnered with happened to be single, but my last partner was also married to a non-dancer, so that worked out well for all of us.

So if you can find a gentleman who you can form a competitive partnership with, then go for it! Think of it as a sort of business partnership if that will help your feelings on the subject.

Hi Sasha.

We are in the same boat, unfortunately! I recently got back in to ballroom dancing and am currently taking private lessons...only way I can without a partner. I enjoy the lessons...dancing with my instructor. Socially, I have to admit, it is tough. Sometimes, I feel like I am back in high school, waiting for someone to ask me to dance...lol! My husband is fine with it, just as yours is. I would love to find a permanent partner. Dancing with my instructor and the other fellas when their wives need a break is good, but just not the same. I too would like to get involved with competitions/showcases, but I am finding that simply social dancing is a HUGE challenge when "flying solo." I have thought about putting an ad out, but I'm afraid I'll end up with some creep. To be honest, when I first got back into it, I did feel guilty and it was pretty weird dancing with someone other than my husband...it's something that I've gotten over and you will too. Are you taking lessons yet?

Hi Robin,
It's nice to know that I'm not alone. I've been dancing for about 4 months now, and I've taken a few private lessons but mostly group lessons. I attend social dancing once a week, and I've been recently going to this club that hosts a ballroom night. I finally met some other girls who go to this club, so we go together (and I don't have to go bymyself, that would be weird). I'm looking for a partner right now so I can take more lessons and share the costs of private lessons, and hopefully be able to compete eventually. I think I'm getting a lot better with the dancing with other guys thing. They all know I'm married, so I feel that makes things a little easier.
Thanks for the advice!
Sasha