I go dancing with my partner socially often and this one beginner guy recently is aggressive with asking my partner to dance over and over--like I wasn't even there. She or I don't mind her dancing with him or anyone, but I have never seen anything like this guy. We generally dance with everyone there and don't dance excessively with each other. I really didn't want to confront him--so I asked my partner to make some excuses or something. Which she has done but he is still relentless, even attempting to sit in my chair when I dancing with others. It's like he is oblivious to the situation. He has this creepy smile all the time and is starting to really irritate me and kill a good dance environment for me.

Have any of you other guys had experience with a rude relentless guy and what have you done?

I have no set partner myself and have never seen anything like this happen.

I'd say if you are dancing with someone else and he is sitting with your partner in your seat (and doesnt get up to make space when you return) ask your lady for a dance streight away then when you return to the table and if he is still sitting there both of you take your drinks and things and go sit somewhere else.
If he doesn't get the message (which he doesn't sound like the type who would), your partner might have to stop dancing with him alltogether. She might ahve to tell him that he is too persistent and she feels uncomfortable dancing with someone like that. Or you will have to tell him yourself, but this might be best done while she is present so it doesnt look as if you are affraid of loosing her to him, as if she was enjoying his company too much and this got you worried. He must get the message that he cant get between the two of you period.

It doesn't mean that either of us mind dancing with him some, but the pesistant thing is what's irritating.
At most, I will never dance with one lady over 4 or 5 times per night and she needs to be very welcoming to me.

What have you ladies done with pesistant men and the same time be pleasant and hope that he will get some type of message?

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Hmmmm,

I've seen this before myself. (And some similar behaviours).

If a guy comes up to a lady that I'm with and asks her to dance and she says YES. Then there's nothing wrong with that.

If I feel that its too often for any reason. Then I may start to decline the lady and find someone who has better availability or just rotate around and leave the two to do there business.

If I feel that the guy is an outcast or lacks social skills, I may disassociate from the lady because of guilt by association if they are together alot.

Darcy

At my studio, there's a sort of unwritten rule that people change partners for every dance or at most dance two in a row. I've had some success with overly persistent guys by reminding them of that (some have been too clueless to have figured it out themselves).

Otherwise, your girlfriend will just have to be a bit rude to him. She can decline a dance with something like, "Sorry, not now, I want to spend some time/dance with my boyfriend." If he's in your seat, she can say "Sorry, that's my boyfriend's seat" if he doesn't get up when you come back. The operative word is "boyfriend" (even if you don't use that word yourselves, it the best for getting the point across to someone clueless).

If that doesn't work, she'll have to be blunt. I have heard of some women in that position who actually give these guys a "quota," like "I'd be happy to dance with you X times a night, but not more." Or she can just start declining all the time.

Persistence is one thing. Sitting in your chair and pushing you aside, especially when it seems clear from your message that you and your lady have given at least some indication to him that you'd rather not- that's starting to be very peculiar.

I think you and your lady should carefully let him know that while the attention is flattering, nevertheless the two of you did come to dance together. Make it non threatening, because I'm not getting good vibes about this guy.

Jerry