Hi Doug
THis is not easy to answer, but i'm used to putting my neck into a noose, so here goes
Rhythm is essentially what you would tap out with your foot while the music is playing. Of course there could be syncopation. If you listen to the start of ,say, "sing-sing-sing" (a great quickstep) the drummer is putting in extra hits on half notes and the like, but there is a clear underlying rhythm which you can tap out.
Melody is what you would whistle. For example the start of "night and day" would be easy enough to whistle and most would recognise it.
Harmony - this is much more difficult to explain. I used "night and day" especially because the very start has a fancy chord accompaniment which gives the music a sad, sombre feeling. Music has a chord sequence and a melody line, and the interplay of these is, in general terms, harmony. It's a complex thing, and hard to explain without playing music.
How to use them??
Better dancers than me could give better answers. Rhythm determines the general tempo of your dancing, but a really good dancer could, for examle, put in extra scatter-chasses in quickstep if there were syncopation which would justify it.
Harmony would modify the 'feel' of a piece, and a good dancer would put this feeling into his dancing.
A 'happy' foxtrot, such as "you make me feel so young" would give a dancer a completely different feeling from 'night and day' which is a much more sombre piece. However, it takes a very good dancer to externalise that feeling into something you can see in their dancing.
Anyone have any ideas before the noose tightens around my neck too much!
