Hi all,
It has just become apparent to me that i am not happy with my current partner, due to lack of focus and determination to dance competitions and so I have made the decision to break it off with her. Despite me choosing this option, I am still friends with this girl and don't wish to hurt her feelings. Any ideas on what to say to my partner that'll explain why I'm dropping her without hurting her?

The truth - but gently.

There is no easy way. If your goals are different. For instance if you hope to travel thousands of miles competing and with all the expenditure involved they may not. Maybe they are not capable of training as hard as yourself. As Telemark said. The truth but gently.

Polished is correct.

Honesty is always the best policy in such a situation.

Simply tell your partner that you don't feel the same level of commitment from her that you're willing to make and you don't believe that she'll be willing to work as hard as you NEED (not WANT).

If that fails, start talking about the size of her feet.



jj

I have been back stabbed, ignored, and treated completely wrong with my past partners. They traded my for someone who I think was of lesser skill and wasn't as committed as I. I was not even told I had to figure it out myself. I can tell you it hurt really bad when I found out and I would have felt better if he had told me earlier on. I would say to do things in person and show that you are truly sorry and if there is anything you can do to make it up. Maybe practice with her twice a month or do social dancing together. Then she won't feel like you are totally leaving her, and then you can slow stop practicing with her. It makes it better and you will feel better about it. Trust me I found out and I was furious with my partner. I talked to him and I made him cry. I don't know how your partnership is but ours was very strong and we were good friends. I mean if you don't want to cry take it slow.

I hope this helps!

~Me