To all dancers,

I would love to approach you and ask if you would like to dance; might you also be conscious of me when my table has deserted me for the dance floor and I'm left behind? Alternately, perhaps this is my first time at a different dance hall, and I've seated myself before others have. Am I feeling left out despite my earlier attempts to introduce myself to new people, and they walk off without the thought of perhaps asking me to join them? Yes.

I seem to have four strikes against me. I 'm middle-aged, 20 lbs. over my ideal weight, married (and therefore, unavailable for "you know"), and I am a beginner dancer. Some strengths are that I still have nice curves, I dress with classic and feminine taste, my dance instructor and I always laugh together, and he considers me to be "charming, fun, and a beautiful woman." For example, "Nice dress, "Jane." "Thanks; I thought it was a nice simple dress." Response:"Jane", on you, nothing's simple."

I have value of many dimensions, but you potential dance partners are too often missing your opportunity to find out. Perhaps you should be looking around the room a bit more. Woman is meant to be the companion to Man. Woman's beauty and value comes in different accents, packages, ages, etc. If you run into someone like me,
try to beat me to the chase and invite me to dance before I ask you. Also, if most men danced with at least one beginner dancer a night, you might catch a prize -- her.

With hopeful expectation,

Look For The Good

Try complementing someone. Find something nice to say to someone and start a conversation. Nothing warms up a person more than receiving a nice complement, especially about their dance. Be sure to be realistic and dont say something like they are the best dancer you have ever seen. Be sure to observe their reaction to your complement. If you are still given a cold shoulder, try again. If you receive a response become an instant listener and keep your mouth shut. Follow their actions but not to the point of mimicking. If you still get the cold shoulder move on to your second choice. When you run out of choices, change mouth wash.