It is so good to hear someone who is trying to match their timing to the music.
All of us tend to want to do what we have been taught, and what we are comfortable with.
You can make most music feel ok while doing what you are comfortable with.
However, the music does have some part in what you should dance.
Rumba has many timings. Including, Slow, Quick, Quick,---Quick, Quick, Slow,---- 2,3,4,---1,2,3,-- (And yes, you can make up your own. Many of us have tried things like, 4,1,2 just for kicks.
If you find the sheet music, you can read it for yourself.
Many songs are played differently by different bands so you can never tell unless you buy the music that exactly matches the record in your case.
Interestingly enough, a man can change from one timing to another if he has a good follower. A good follower, can make all the difference.