I've asked around what makes a guy ask a lady to dance on the dance floor? Besides first hearing about height and sometimes beauty (eye roll) I ultimately heard this:

Confidence in yourself
A love to dance
Willingness to follow
Ability to hold your axis
Movement with opposition and engagement

I want to know- what do you ladies feel about that? How important are these things to you as a tango dancer and partner? How can we get to asked to all night??

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I wouldn't be surprised if the answers vary more on the quality of the leader, their level of dance (social or ballroom) and the character of the gentleman. I really enjoyed a book "Hold Me Tight and Tango Me Home" and she mentions this a lot. It's a memoir about her experience in learning Argentine Tango and how it helped her after a failed marriage. She and her friend found that many men in a social setting were focused on the woman's looks more than anything else. Unless they're the wonderful type who makes sure he dances with at least every woman who seems receptive.

I've been at social ballroom events and known attractive women who were outstanding dancers get ignored. It does feel a lot like the old days of high school dances. I wonder if people do really change much?

I don't know if there is a difference for a tango dancer as opposed to a ballroom/latin dancer, but this is what I have found. I never have a problem dancing every dance if I want to. I am not young or beautiful, medium height 5'6. I am a good follower because I know my own steps. This is the secret IMO. Many women can't dance unless they are pushed, pulled and held up. Good male dancers won't dance with a heavy woman more than once. If the man is a poor lead, I make my best guess and do something. I keep moving. So even if it wasn't what the guy expected, I make him look good. I'm pleasant, smile throughout and never criticize. Where I dance, everyone there is there to dance, period. Married women are quite comfortable coming by themselves. Other studios have more of a "social aspect" where men and women are looking for more than just a dance partner. So if you want to dance, take lessons and work on yourself.